Senior News Daily Blog

  • Dealing with a hole in my memory
    Like so many of my friends and contemporaries, I’ve begun to encounter those awkward moments when memory fails.  The incidents happen occasionally and although bothersome, they are not occurring with a frequency that would elevate my concern.  Still, I’m a bit uneasy about what might lie ahead. As I’m guessing anyone my age would be.  […]
  • Aging with grace
    I had the good fortune to renew a relationship with a friend I had not seen for many years.  He knew me during a rough patch and curious about my current frame of mind he asked me, “Are you happy?” His memories of me were fraught with personal and business crisis so it surprised him […]
  • Take a lesson from a top-notch surfer boy (catch a wave, catch a wave)
    Staring at the screen… don’t know what to write, lacking all inspiration or outrage or energy.  Maybe a sugar rush would help… tramping up and down the stairs surreptitiously snatching Hersey Kisses from the frig after spending five minutes on Spell Check trying to spell surreptitiously.  Up and down the stairs… reminds me of my […]
  • When old dogs learn new tricks
    We’ve become accustomed to the ‘kind of amusing but not really funny’ jokes about being old: my back goes out more than I do… I took up jogging so I could hear heavy breathing again… I’m so old I remember when emojis were called hieroglyphics.  Bada boom. Thankfully, notions of aging as defined by some […]
  • The passage into elderhood
    Our lives are a series of passages: from boyhood to manhood; son to father; daughter to mother.  Of them all, perhaps no transition is more difficult than the traverse from middle age to senior citizen; reluctant to leave the glory days of our life’s chronology we struggle mightily to resist moving on. Having enjoyed the […]
  • Ten years ago, I was not the man I used to be. Now I’m not the man I was ten years ago!
    My body is getting older.  Not so the brain.  Which often finishes the New York Times Crossword puzzle and is still sharp and alert. Which can be a problem, lest I’m at a rousing party and get an impulse to try that jitterbug move I’m famous for and land up in the drummer’s lap. Case […]
  • “Even the best of us are at least part time bastards”
    When I learned recently that the long time saint in my life was not always thus, it took me a moment to process the reality that my exemplar had feet of clay. My love for her was such that I never allowed for human weaknesses or vulnerabilities to filter her shining light. But it was […]
  • Do not dismiss the power of symbols
    People have always saved scraps of their experience to help remind them of a magical time in their lives.  We save a shell from our vacation at the beach where we fell in love.  Perhaps a ticket stub from the championship game when the Cubs won the world series. It doesn’t make ‘intellectual’ sense.  It’s […]
  • City mouse moves to suburbs, survives freshly mowed lawns and morning songs of wrens and sparrows.
    Ten months ago we moved out of the city into a small and utterly charming house in a nearby suburb.   We were safe from the pandemic, digitally Nest alarmed, healthfully air-conditioned, feeling near hermetically sealed from the world, never mind the virus. Warm weather brought out the Hammacher Schlemmer​ deck furniture, a hammock, a birdbath […]
  • Ten years ago, I was not the man I used to be. Now I’m not the man I was ten years ago!
    My body is getting older.  Not so the brain.  Which often finishes the New York Times Crossword puzzle and is still sharp and alert. Which can be a problem, lest I’m at a rousing party and get an impulse to try that jitterbug move I’m famous for and land up in the drummer’s lap. Case […]
  • I can listen to you. I can guide you. I can nurture you. I cannot heal you.
    Perhaps you have heard me tell this story before.  It is one of my favorites, in that it taught me a valuable lesson that continues to serve me well. Years ago, when my husband and I were closer to the start of our spiritual journeys, we traveled to an ashram for a workshop led by […]
  • The bargain we make with death
    Five years ago I had a conversation with death.  It had been in the offing for a long time but I just couldn’t bring myself to meet the apparition in the spooky black robe; he scared me.  It took the sudden demise of a dear friend to broker the meeting. I was never a stranger […]
  • The inestimable value of friends
    Friends have always played a hugely important role in my life.  Never more so than during the pre-teens years when I was in the middle of a growth spurt with pants two inches above the ankle and a voice box vibrating between alto and baritone.  I ran with street kids and trust fund heirs alike.  […]
  • I decide not to have an argument with my wife
    Ah yes, the occasional squabble between husband and wife over some issue so unimportant it’s too embarrassing to admit, as in “You left the light on in the kitchen” or “Why didn’t you pick up the mail when I asked you to?”  In reply, I have two options. Option one: “So I forgot… “followed by […]
  • Covers over my head or get out of bed?
    There are days when I wake up feeling hopelessly despondent and about as relevant as a party-line, wall-mounted, rotary telephone.  That’s my daily challenge, to resist the self-deprecating tendency to think I have nothing left to live for; no value to contribute; no purpose whatsoever for still hanging around. I have to remind myself that […]
  • One country has become two societies. It is us against them and no in-between.
    I am beset with childhood memories of living in a similar time: before the Civil Rights Bill; before Roe v Wade; before the Americans with Disabilities Act. I remember how bleak and uninviting my neighborhood was, the paint peeling off the porches and heartbreak and tragedy behind every doorway.  A kid from a rival high […]
  • Tools to dig out of an unexpected sinkhole
    Ordinarily I get out of bed with an attitude of gratitude, thinking positive thoughts and planning a day that includes more than becoming a lump on the sofa.  And then there are the occasional days when my inner spirit and higher purpose simply do not show up! What do I do then, when my Better […]
  • When old age hits you can either fall down or hit back
    My head is not in the sand; I recognize the steady downward slide of the dumbbell weight and fewer number of reps during my occasional visits to the condo’s health club. But I refuse to classify locker room vanity as a measure of who I am.  Scrawny pectoral muscles are not indicative of a protracted […]
  • When the fledglings leave the nest
    Not too long ago, when I was asked if I had any children, I answered, “Yes, I have two, a boy and a girl.” But that’s not true now.  I no longer have kids. It’s been that way for some time now, considering both my son and my daughter are closing in on fifty.  But […]
  • Dad and Mom turned 121 and 119 this week. We had a good talk, long overdue
    Odd how I see you both so clearly, composites of the few photographs stored away in the carton that has moved with me for fifty years, occasionally opened, a provocateur of tears that continue silently as the worn cardboard sides are interlaced and you are shut away once again. There is a link missing from […]
  • Bacon and eggs as a simile for commitment: the chicken is involved; the pig is committed
    “I will end hunger on this planet by the end of the year.  That is my solemn commitment.” I watched the speaker, a well dressed man in his late twenties, emote with passion and conviction.  It was the final hour of a three day workshop described by the promotional flyer as a new level of […]
  • Do not hold back the tears
    “There is sacredness in tears. They are not the mark of weakness, but of power. They speak more eloquently than ten thousand tongues. They are the messengers of overwhelming grief, of deep contrition, and of unspeakable love.”–Washington Irving Learning to gently reveal who we are at the core of our identity is the path to […]
  • Senior citizen is not a synonym for old person
    You’ve heard the saying about aging athletes – he’s lost a step but he more than makes up for it with experience. It’s true in life as well. At about the time the first Social Security check arrives most of us have recognized the transition from the person we used to be to the person […]
  • Old gray mare makes strong stretch run
    I admit to being creaky and making funny noises before I get warmed up but I fiercely dispute the societal assumption that Senior Citizens are like used cars ready for the junk heap. An odometer does not measure experience, wisdom and perspective. As the venerable lexicographer Peter Roget tells us, being a ‘senior’ is not […]
  • How to add joy and meaning to your remaining years
    Aging gracefully I had the good fortune to renew a relationship with a friend I had not seen for many years.  He knew me during a rough patch and curious about my current frame of mind he asked me, “Are you happy?” His memories of me were fraught with personal and business crisis so it […]
  • A girl in braids and a boy in a red sweater end violence in America
    Amanda Gorman’s poem, “The Hill We Climb,” was a highlight of the 2021 inauguration. It inspired both sides of the political spectrum with its lyrical vision “to compose a country committed to all cultures, colors, characters and conditions of man.” Who would have thought that poetry could be the force that unites a country and […]
  • Last things, new beginnings
    Guest post by Barbara Bengels – Do you remember what you were doing (or planning to do) when Covid shut down the world as we knew it? Were you teaching a class, standing in line at the supermarket, planning on seeing a play? Those were my plans; they’re still undone. How do we respond when […]
  • Swimming in the ocean when there is no ocean
    Last year at this time Arlene and I were vacationing in Ixtapa, Mexico having rented a gorgeous condominium overlooking the Pacific Ocean.  We were re-charging, self-care to the max. This year we’re house bound, self-isolating, currently overlooking about twelve inches of snow and lathering on Tiger Balm after shoveling a path for the mailman.  And […]
  • The Valentine flowers are wilted and the candy is all gone Now what?
    The merchants ardently promoting Valentine’s Day would have you believe that true love is delivered in a box of chocolates or bouquet of flowers.  If only it were that easy. Lasting love is built on a foundation of trust and intimacy.  And that cannot be ordered on-line from FDT or Fannie May.  It takes two […]
  • “I’m in a relationship.” What does that really mean?
    I hear it all the time, from young and old, couples newly met to spouses celebrating Golden anniversaries.  I wonder sometimes, as I listen to both the starry eyed and the disillusioned, if they knew what they were committing to when they exclaimed, giddy or resigned, “I’m in a relationship.” Did they fully know the […]
  • SND Blog: Meditation? Nothing to it!
    I think too much.  More often than not, I dwell on the negative side of my chattering prefrontal lobe, conjuring up dire endings to scenarios that have yet to be written. Sometimes the buzzing gets incessant and I find myself fixated on doom and gloom looming just around the corner, compulsively blowing up pint sized […]
  • When two people merge into one, it is a moving lyric in a ballad, but not a formula for happingess
    The danger of a loving marriage is losing sight of love for one’s self.  True love is understanding how to be independent, together. Perhaps that surprises you. The most often heard mantra for a happy marriage is to put yourself second because as the common advice goes, when you start caring for your spouse more […]
  • Take ‘the middle way’ on the path to happiness
    The GPS to a tranquil and happy old age recommends “The Middle Way” I’m coping with a significant impending change: we’re moving from the heart of the city to a nearby suburb.  The adjustment will be dramatic.  From a two-block walk to restaurants, museums and shopping to mowing the backyard lawn and watching my granddaughter […]
  • Moving forward
    Summing up, a life of transformation, and a year of change You’ve heard the saying about aging athletes – he’s lost a step but he more than makes up for it with experience. It’s true in life as well. At about the time the first Social Security check arrives most of us have recognized the […]
  • Staying calm when there’s a blip in your memory
    Dealing with a hole in my memory (Senior News Daily editorial staff) Like so many of my friends and contemporaries, I’ve begun to encounter those awkward moments when memory fails.  The incidents happen occasionally and although bothersome, they are not occurring with a frequency that would elevate my concern.  Still, I’m a bit uneasy about […]